据统计2007-2009年的三年间，有近四分之一的美国夫妇是在网上认识的。网上交友除了安全问题之外，比较令人不放心的应该是网上的个人资料和本人的差距太大。网上男人说自己是李逵，见了面才发现他其实是李鬼。实际上，这个担忧也许没有必要。最近发表在Computers in Human Behavior期刊上的研究显示，女性可以单凭网上的个人资料，就能选出现实生活中比较有吸引力的男人，甚至没有必要看他们的照片。费城维拉诺瓦大学(Villanova University in Philadelphia)的研究人员以50多名女性为研究对象，让她们对某著名交友网站100名男性填写的个人资料和相片分别进行评估，并说出在她们心目中，那些男人值得约会、一夜情或长期交往。研究的结果令人吃惊：女性在这方面大多有第六感觉。很多女性在没看相片之前，仅凭阅读男人写的个人资料，就可以把出色的帅哥挑选出来。换一句话说，现实生活中魅力稍逊，想通过网上浑水摸鱼的男人，在网上交友也同样处于劣势。研究者认为，自信是男人个人资料吸引女性的关键。实际生活上，条件比较好的男人大多比较自信，这种自信也同样反映在网上他填写的个人资料上。这个研究给男人的启示也许是：喜欢不喜欢，现代人生活节奏越来越快，网上交友，找你生活的另一半已是大事所趋。现实社会中条件不很理想的男性，真的也好，编的也好，在网上填写个人资料时应尽量显示出男人的自信。只有这样才有可能增加和女方见面、网上交友和婚姻成功的机会。祝天下有情人终成眷属!原文：
Would Romeo and Juliet be matched online?
July 25,2002Royal Caribbean defers newbuild optionsRoyal Caribbean Cruises Ltd. today announced better than expected second quarter earnings of $66.7 million or $0.34 per share but nonetheless said it was extending until September 30 the expiration of options it holds for two more Radiance class newbuilds, because of "uncertainty" about its proposed acquisition of P&O Princess Cruises.The second quarter figure of $66.7 million compares to $81.7 million or $0.42 per share for the second quarter of 2001. Net revenues per available passenger cruise day were down 3.3%, which was significantly better than previous guidance of a decline in the range of 5 to 7%. At June 30th, the company's net debt to capital ratio was 56.6% and liquidity was approximately $1.6 billion. The outlook for the remainder of the year also continues to improve from earlier guidance, says Royal Caribbean, which now forecasts that yields for the third quarter of 2002 will be down 2 to 4%, while yields in the fourth quarter will be up 4 to 6% from the same quarters in 2001. For full year 2002, yields are expected to be down 2 to 3% from 2001. Revenues for the second quarter were $821.8 million, essentially unchanged from the same quarter prior year. The impact of an increase in capacity was offset by the decrease in yields and a significant decline in the number of guests purchasing air transportation from the company. The trend for more passengers to drive to the point of embarkation or to arrange for their own air transportation continues. As a result, the percentage of guests booking air travel through the company dropped from 26.7% in the second quarter of 2001 to 14.5% in 2002. "The recovery from the events of September 11th has been extremely encouraging from both a pricing and occupancy perspective," said Chairman & CEO Richard D. Fain. "The industry and our company are proving to be very resilient, and this leads me to be very optimistic about the company's future performance." Royal Caribbean previously gave guidance that it expected total operating costs (operating plus SG&A expenses) excluding fuel for the full year to drop 5% on a per available berth day basis. The drop in the second quarter was in fact significantly higher, at 13.2%. Contributing to this were reduced air transportation costs associated with fewer passengers purchasing air tickets from the company and lower commission costs associated with lower ticket prices. Due to the anticipated return to more normal air/sea levels and an increase in commissions as well as certain timing issues, the company believes that the previous guidance continues to be accurate. The change in the sale of air tickets to guests has only a minimal impact to the company's net income. Therefore, the company believes changes in running expenses (i.e., those expenses directly associated with shipboard operations) and SG&A to be a more relevant measure of its ability to control costs in a manner that positively impacts the bottom line. For the quarter, running and SG&A expenses excluding fuel were down 6.9% on an available berth day basis. For the year, the company expects these costs to improve 3.5 to 4.0% on the same basis. During the quarter the company took delivery of Constellation, the last of the Celebrity newbuilds on order. The delivery of Constellation grows the Celebrity fleet to a total of nine ships, which have an average age of approximately 4 years. Celebrity's fleet was recently recognized by the U.S. Coast Guard for its superior environmental operations with the 2002 William M. Benkert Award for Environmental Excellence. The company has also added Brilliance of the Seas to its fleet, the second in the 2,100-passenger Radiance-class series for Royal Caribbean International. The ship, which has noise and vibration measurements one-fourth of what is specified in the contract, has achieved the highest rating ever measured for these qualities by Det Norske Veritas. In connection with the delivery of Constellation, the company utilized an export financing facility, which has a floating rate of LIBOR plus 1.5% and amortizes over eight and one half years. Brilliance of the Seas was financed through a long-term operating lease. The term of the lease is 25 years and is cancelable in years 10 and 18. The effective interest rate of the lease is approximately 5.75%. Following delivery of Constellation, total debt as of June 30, 2002 was $5.6 billion. Cash and cash equivalents were approximately $600 million as of that date, and the company's $1 billion revolving credit facility was fully undrawn, for liquidity of $1.6 billion. The company also has available export financing facilities for approximately $600 million for the deliveries of Serenade of the Seas and Jewel of the Seas. The company has options for construction of two additional Radiance-class ships for delivery in 2005 and 2006. "In light of the uncertainty relating to the proposed combination with P&O Princess," says Royal Caribbean, "the company has extended the expiration date on these options to September 20, 2002. Based upon the company's current estimates of revenues and expenses, it believes the consensus of analyst estimates for 2002 full year EPS to be reasonable. Looking forward, the booking period for 2003 is just beginning. This, coupled with the limited visibility resulting from the current close-in booking environment, makes it difficult to provide guidance for next year. However, if 2003 yields return to 2001 levels, the company expects that it will meet or exceed current consensus for 2003 full year results. Separately, the company disclosed that it expects to incur approximately $25 million in costs related to the proposed combination with P&O Princess. If the transaction is completed as contemplated, these costs, together with additional success fees, will be capitalized as part of the overall transaction. In the event the combination does not occur, these costs will appear as part of operating expenses in the quarter that the final determination about the transaction is made.Yesterday Royal Caribbean issued a statement expressing "disappointment" over the clearance by the EU Commission of Carnival's bid for Princess. Fain said he was "surprised" at the finding, which accorded neither with Royal Caribbean's own analysis of the cruise industry in Europe nor with earlier reports of the EU inquiry's own findings. Royal Caribbean said it had been allowed no opportunity to comment on this change of direction, signaled at the start of last week. "The abrupt change effectively reversed an earlier conviction among Commission officials and many others involved in the process, based on many months of analysis, that Carnival's bid should be prohibited or cleared only subject to major disposals," said theRoyal Caribbean statement. At a meeting on July 15 between senior representatives of Royal Caribbean and the Competition Commission, "no mention whatever was made of the Commission's altered views on the key issues under investigation. Nonetheless, the intention to issue a clearance decision was apparently communicated to the media even while the meeting was still in progress." Fain said: "The Commission has opted for a peremptory merger clearance. Earlier analyses and widely mooted decisions were abruptly reversed behind closed doors. The concerns of Royal Caribbean and many other third parties over the Carnival bid have been set aside. No explanations have been given, nor reactions sought, in ways that might have allowed a timely consideration of these parties' views -- not least via an Oral Hearing. Such procedural short-cuts have sadly diminished the openness and transparency that all parties rely upon in circumstances such as these." Meanwhile, Royal Caribbean says it remains committed to its agreed merger with P & O Princess Cruises, which has been approved by the competition authorities in Germany and the U.K. Both the agreed merger and Carnival's hostile bid are still conditional upon regulatory approval by the Federal Trade Commission in the US. "We are doing everything we can to assist the FTC and to help it distinguish clearly between the likely contrasting consequences of the two rival transactions," said Fain
- The average courtship for married couples that meet online is approximately18.5 months
- The average courtship for married couples that meet offline is approximately42 months
- In 2010 the worldwide online dating industry is worth $4 billion
- In 2009 17 % of married couples met online
- 1 in 5 singles have dated online
- 1 in 5 singles in serious relationships met their partners online
- USA has approximately 40 million online dater. China has 140 million onlinedaters largest in the world.
By Howard Axelrod
IN A cluttered studio apartment on the outskirts of Verona, Romeo sits down at his desk and picks up his quill. His best friend Benvolio has been at him again. Time is running out for marriage, Benvolio has said, and there’s only one cure for his latest heartbreak. Online dating.
Resigned, his handsome brow furrowed, Romeo scratches and blots his way through a profile. “By a name, I know not how to tell thee who I am,” he begins, “nor am I equally at ease in jeans or formal wear.” Then, in spite of himself, he continues, “I cherish jousts of words, and jousts of love, and those who romance beyond words.” Not entirely appalled, he opens his Mac, takes poetic license with his height and build, adds a selfie shot in the bathroom mirror, and prays for the best.
Meanwhile, across town, Juliet has just logged in. Through her 20s she swore, especially to her mother, that marriage was an honor she dreamed not of, but with tenure now a lock at the university, her Facebook news feed overwhelmed with friends’ photos of weddings and babies, and her remaining Netflix options grown chidingly thin, she has begun to long for a partner.
The numbers suggest Romeo and Juliet are doing the right thing. In the United States — let’s assume they’re in Verona, N.Y. — roughly 100 million people are single, and about 40 million people have tried online dating. The superabundance of potential matches is new. In 1950, only 22 percent of American adults were single, but now the figure is nearly 50 percent. Also new, perhaps due the increasing role of technology in American life, is that the stigma of online dating is largely gone. In 2013, a Pew Research study found that 59 percent of Americans agreed with the statement: “Online dating is a good way to meet people.”
But does an increase in options, and an increased ability to navigate those options, actually increase the likelihood of finding love? What impact does the online-consumer model — a virtual warehouse of potential partners, stocked according to an algorithm designed to suit your stated tastes — have on forming a committed relationship?
For one thing, Romeo and Juliet wouldn’t find each other today. Shakespeare’s star-crossed lovers met at a masquerade, which meant a party’s limited options and almost no information about each other, except the touch of Romeo’s hand and the heated flirtation of their words. But today’s Romeo and Juliet have a shopper’s catalogue of choices and set their search parameters to find exclusively what they’re looking for. And given the centuries-old feud between the Montagues and the Capulets, they’re not looking for each other. Perhaps Romeo, like most of the Montagues, is short; perhaps Juliet, like most of the Capulets, is a bit stout. In person, they find many types of people attractive. But with online dating, given the option to rule out the short and the stout, they do.
Which raises another question: Does a more bounded context, with fewer choices and less sense of control, help us with what the theologian William F. May calls “an openness to the unbidden?” And, even more complicated, do the greatest love affairs come from finding what we’re looking for, or from finding what we don’t know to look for — from the alchemy that flares when the unbidden happens to find us?
As with most questions of love, there are no easy answers. But these questions do prompt an important distinction between great love affairs and great committed relationships, which may not entirely overlap with each other. For securing the latter, many of the singles I asked said they find Internet dating helpful. They prefer a large pool of prospects and the power to vet those prospects in advance. Granted, certain indignities can result from the efficiency approach: One friend told me she felt like a horse whose teeth her date was inspecting before purchase; another said she feels like she’s dating everyone and no one at the same time. But for the privilege of casting a wide net, and of not having to catch a stranger’s eye in public when he’s likely looking at his phone anyway, online daters endure.
For great love affairs, though, having so much control may not be as helpful. It’s hard to start a fire with a checklist and an algorithm. No one trusts love at first click.
But sometimes online dating outfoxes itself. About six months ago, a man from Los Angeles was passing through Logan airport; his smartphone geo-located him; his OkCupid account included a South Boston woman’s profile as a possible match. Bored waiting for his plane, he looked. She saw he’d looked. By the time she messaged him, he was back in LA. Neither one was interested in a long-distance relationship — their search parameters said as much — but they started messaging. Eventually, they went offline and started writing letters. Maybe not with quills, but with paper and ink. “I was 30 years old,” she said, “and he was the first man to send me flowers.”
This fall he’s moving to Boston. They’ve already met each other’s family. Theirs is a modern love story — one of both control and the unbidden, one of both playing the averages and following an exception. May all online daters be so lucky.